Please Stop Looking for Motivation

To "be motivated" you basically have to want the results and/or benefits of the change more than you want things to stay the same. Said another way, you flat-out gotta desire the new behaviour more than the old. So it stands to reason that you first need to figure out WHY actually, deep-down, this new thing that you want to do, be, or have is so damn desirable to you in the first place.

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Hiding from Your Crap? Why and How to Finally Just Deal With It Already

You know how literally everyone, including me, says small things add up to big progress? Well, sadly it works the same with the life's crap. If you let a bunch of little things or even a few medium-sized ones pile up they will turn into one big mess - and this mess takes over your brain. 

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Beating the Post-Vacation Blues

Have you ever gone on vacation, gotten home, unpacked, went back to work, then wished you were on vacation again? Found yourself crying while drinking duty-free rum straight out of the bottle? Yeah, me too. So what is this pattern of post-vacation blues all about? More to the point, what can you do about it? Well, I've come up with this short list of hacks that should help you stop crying. 

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Suit Up: How Self-Care Isn't Selfish

To do what you want for not only yourself but for others - effectively and wholly and without resentment - you need to feel open, capable, energized, and in control. So working back from that you've gotta take care of yourself. As they say on all the airplanes: you need to put on your oxygen mask first. Said another, more fun way: it's time to suit up like Iron Man. 

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